Should girl do a Job after Marriage

Should girl do a Job after Marriage???

Well, this is the most controversial question nowadays.....


So the answer should be 2 kinds of :
1 ) Yes, Every girl has equality right & she have to do the job in today's world.
2) No, Girls are made to do homework, fulfilling her responsibilities towards her husband, children & parents.

In my opinion, I will favor option 1.

And in 2nd option, I would like to make debate here.

Conversation 1:
People: Girls are meant to do homework only.
Me: When she is Equally qualified like boys, why she cant do work outside the home. And homework, that she can manage even after her working hours of job.

Conversation 2:
People: Working girl is not seeing from people with respect.
Me: only such narrow-minded people will say this.

Conversation 3:
People: Girls are meant to give birth a child. without that, she is not a complete woman.
Me: Jobs are giving enough maternity leaves. She doesn't need to do sacrifice of her career for just being a mother.

Conversation 4:
People: Child wants mother only. If she is a working woman who will Teach good values to children?
Me: As per scientific Research a child wants his mother up to the age of 5, gradually with increasing age they lose interest in entire family & give more attention to friends, so there is no need to sacrifice career. She can give them time even after working hours of job. Time also needs quality, not quantity.

Conversation 5:
People: She will do affair on her workplace, & it leads to increasing divorces in India.
Me: It is a very rare situation when women do like this. Divorces are increasing due to awareness & increasing laws in favor of woman i.e. protection against domestic violence, marital rape, an extramarital affair of husband, dowry etc.

Conversation 6:
People: She will not respect elders if she works.
Me: Respect contains family values given to girls, there is no part of a job in that.


Hence, I will only say that Working woman is always bringing prosperities, education, modern values in-house. She is working with fulfilling all her responsibilities towards a house. Please don't stop her. Be a supporter of her, Be a part of her career. Be on trend.

Thank You.

3 Months at Call center Job

                    Someone told me that once in a life you should do the job in a call center. You will get experiences & skills that you will not get from any other job.      

             Yes, it proved right for me. I learned a lot of things there. the first month was a training month there. So the whole of that period we just had lots of fun by doing various activities. also, that training was kinds of personality development training so think I improved from that also. 

              In the last days of training, I remember we did one activity. in that activity, everyone has to write one good quality of others that they notice within this time. for some people, I feel that it is quite easy to fill pages about their qualities & for some people I was like that I even can not write one sentence for them because I did not like them & I cannot see an even single quality in them.

              But as a part of activity, i have to write one sentence for everyone so I did. I find it too difficult at that time. but in the end from that activity, I learned to see a good thing in everyone.

             After the training our job started, work was new to us so I find it quite interesting to talk with different kind of persons, help them & all. that is also a new development in me because I am that kind of girl who doesn't like to talk on phones, in personal life I prefer to message or chat people while I want to interect. even sometimes I cut the calls due to my laziness to talk on phones. but there is no change in me even after work in call center, I still don't like to talk on calls. Lol.

             But major thing i faced when the job was started is that all people changed. I was in the belief that one month is more than enough to know persons that friends I made. at that point, i proved wrong myself. the friends to whom I think they are my best friends they got new friends there, & who friends I did not speak that much they become my best friends. I accept that is the part of life so I don't have any regret for that. 

               For most of the people call center jobs are just for timepass, including me, ao as 1st & 2nd month passed friends left the job. that is little shocking moment that we will not meet again in life but it is also part of the life so I accepted it & I find more new friends there, here I recalling one "shayri" in this situation that is "मैं अकेला ही चला था जानिब-ए-मंज़िल मगर, लोग साथ आते गये और कारवां बनता गया" 

               In this job, i learned to talk with calm even if a person in front of you is very angry, make him calm & turn his/her anger into smile. I learned to see good things in everyone. as here I met people with different education so knowledge and experiences what they have they shared with us & I learned from that also. & as this was my first job so the most important thing I was done is I celebrated my mom's birthday with my salary, that was truly given me happiness. so will say this job gives me lots of things in my life, & they will be memorable for me for my whole life.

               In the end of the third month, I left the job. like previous people I also left the job without informing anyone, I have that regret to hurt my best friend who believed that I will always with him during a job, but as I was not getting any kick I left the job. 

              Lastly,  I also want to suggest new freshers that everyone should do a job in call center once in a life. it brings change in your life, change may be small or big depends on a person, but memories & experience you will get that will be amazing for you & your life. 

Change your attitude about RELATIONS

               Here I want to talk about relations which are other than Love.

               A human being is a social animal, as we all need to talk with anyone. when we start talking with someone either we start hating or start loving him/her & sometimes no feelings generate in us for that person. That depends on our choice plus behaviour of a person who is front of us. 

               When a boy meets other boy & have feelings for him, he cares for him, always teases him that is ok, the same thing applicable when a girl have her bestie & she cares for her, share everything with her that is also ok. But when a boy cares for girl or girl cares for boy why always we pretend that something is going on between then. 

              I had heard one dialogue in an old movie that one boy and one girl never can be a best friend. Why they can not be best friends?? Why they can not care each other when they are only friends and not in the relationship?? Why they can not go to outing and post pics with each other?? Is there any qualification needed to do these all thing that you have to be in a relationship. If your answer is yes then congrats you are getting an award of most narrow-minded person.

            when one boy does something for another boy we don't call him gay, when a girl is getting mad while she meets another girl we don't call her lesbian then why one girl and one boy is cheering up & we just put a tag on them that they must be in the relationship.

             the line I mostly listen when I ask anyone something about any boy their reaction will be that what relation is between you & that boy, why you care this much. So my clear and cut answer for them that I am not narrow-minded like you, I will care for everyone who is in my life whether boy or girl. I just care for all that doesn't mean I am in love with that person. 
     
             So just change your attitude that girl and boy always there is lust. it may friendship, care, or attraction also. but not all time love happens in every girl and boy relation.

             sometimes it happens that we keep talking with the person & start getting fall in love with him or her, & when he/she ignores you or say something you don't like you got hurt. Here I think feelings are a just game of mind. If we force our mind in that direction that I love him/her and I want him/her, you think your love is increasing and actually, you are getting mad. 

              remember one thing in life that we can love anyone, who stay with us for one month we start loving them or sometimes start hating them. One month is enough to love someone or to forget someone. Focus on your career, Do good from your side & rest leave on the time.   

Loneliness

When we feel loneliness?? When we are actually alone or when everyone is there but no one is talking to you?? I know in the most cases answer will be the second one.

So what's the remedy of loneliness??? To ignore people??? Nooo, definitely not. Actually, there is a remedy but it is not acceptable in the cast of a human being.

When someone hurt to us & We leave to talk each other then loneliness is created. In another word we can say that awkward silence is created, where we want to speak but can't speak. And it becomes unbearable silence we can't afford.

e.g. Take a crowd. Where you don't know anyone. You were enjoying to see everyone and you didn't feel lonely that time. And one of your friends entered in that crowd to whom you are not talking nowadays. Just notice now you will start to feel like lonely.
so this is the situation happens with us most of the time. But we can't find a solution for that.

I have a remedy for that. But as I told you earlier it is very difficult for human beings to apply. So for this, we can do that don't leave to talk with anyone in any situation. Now you ask if others hurt you then?? First, you have to stop hurting others. Then only you get respect. Everyone should be free to speak anything to anyone. No age bar, no limits. That really makes us free what we feel, and give chance to others also to speak anything to you & They should have a guarantee that you will not leave to speak with them & Vice versa. And the condition is that try to understand others instead of getting hurt. Try to be selfish, be feelingless and don't keep expectation with anyone. Be ready to listen NO, too. This creation of talk free world can save us from loneliness.

So do you think after reading this what the bullshit is this.!!!!! Yeah, I know. I told you that this will not possible for a human being. But This world is going more & More practical. Here if you keep ego or shame, or doing drama of being hurt and not talking to each another then this world is not for you. Here you have to be like speak with everyone. But don't trust everyone & Please don't expect with anyone.


That's It.

         

   

Feelings

                             Ahhh !!!! This is the topic where everyone belongs to it definitely. Here I will write what I feel.
                             Yeah, that's true I am so emotional person in my life. Everyone to whom I meet in my life my feelings gets connected with them.   I always want a good bond with everyone. I always try to make feel them very special in my life.
             
                             But being emotional is not my problem. My problem is I am giving importance to them who doesn't deserve it. Sometimes I feel very bad when people don't value my work what I did for them & don't even appreciate. I don't want the same treatment what I did for them to make them feel special. But I just want my love back. I am that much selfish to get my love back.

                              There is only one solution to this problem. JUST MOVE ON. Move on from those people who don't have your value. That's it.